Honesty required or not?

On a recent weekend trip to a friend’s house threw up an interesting situation. While the men were busy enjoying their drinks and the mums busy catching up, the kids decided to play kitchen-kitchen or something to that effect.

While role playing it was decided that the kids also must serve make believe drinks. My son became the bar tender and poured out a few whiskies for his assistant to serve. (He knows that I have an occasional drink over the weekend and has asked me what I was drinking. I have also explained to him that alcohol is a drink for adults)

So when his assistant offered her dad whisky she was reprimanded for using a bad word ”whisky is a bad word and you should never use it”. Wont she wonder if it is a bad word then why are you drinking it dad?

Why, I wondered, was the need to confuse them? Is it a fear that awareness will lead them to start drinking at an early age? They see us tippling at parties, family get together or at home, occasionally. 

On the flip side by lying to them are we raising their level of intrigue and sending them confused signals. Ever heard of the ‘forbidden fruit’?

Yes I agree that they don’t need to know everything and discretion is required in a number of situations but for something like “whisky”  or a drink I wonder?


Competition between kids or parents

Well competition is part and parcel of our lives.  Whether we choose to compete or not acknowledge it at a sub-conscious level or not we have and will always have competition.

So when do we start teaching our young kids about “competition”

I’ll dwell a little more on that in another post, but right now I think what I see is more of a competition between the mothers and in some cases the fathers as well around “my kid is better than yours ”

So you go to school PTM you see mothers sheepishly checking other kids notebooks to make comparisons. Projects on display are also looked at with a lot of interest with mental notes being taken and a sizing up of the competition is done clandestinely

This trend only continues to worsen around extracurricular activities, summer camps, etc.

You will probably ask how but if you are a parent haven’t you asked what all your neighbors kids of the same age group are doing and compared with what you have lined up for your kid.

Everyone may not look at this with a competitive microscope but I would guess majority of the parents do so.