Good versus bad touch

Is there an age when this distressing yet increasingly important subject needs to be discussed with our children?

Going by the newspaper reports and what we hear around us, the sooner we start and teach our kids to recognize good and bad touch, the better. We cannot be around them all the time to protect them, therefore the need for us to make them aware, tough and self-reliant to take on the big bad world.
Though even home today is not as secure as it used to be, once the kids step out, they are exposed to a number of people in the routine which they follow during the course of the day. What happens to them in seemingly secure environment / surroundings like, school, school bus, playground etc. cannot be taken for granted.
The kids need to be sensitized at a relatively young age. Any change in the child’s demeanor or behavior should not be taken lightly. But a gentle probing conversational approach would help in their opening up and sharing their concerns. The other important aspect which we should drill home is that whatever happens they have to always tell the parents first. We must be their first port of call whenever they face a problem. This is especially true for young kids but would be an ideal approach for kids off all age groups.
The longer they consider us as their friends better are the chances of them sharing their problems with us.

How to tackle lying

Instinctively we’ll know when our child(ren) are being untruthful about a sticky situation.

Do we continue to press home our point and relent only when they succumb to the pressure and own up or r to diffuse the building tension we choose to ignore the situation with the hope that better sense will prevail?

What I have observed with my son is that he becomes aggressive, the “no’s” only becoming vehemently stronger and the pitch becoming louder and louder. Conversely, there are kids who become completely docile and can be seen physically trembling with the fear of admonishment.

Not sure what approach is best, but maybe an over aggressive approach could be counter-productive. Depending upon the situation or the context behind the lie an offhand-ish yet stern approach helps to send the message home.

What have been your experiences and learning’s?

Toddlers and Technology

Technology for the better or the worse is a reality which is impacting us across all realms of life. The sooner we embrace this fact and try and imbibe, if not all but some facets, our lives will be easier, or so I hope.

What impact technology has in the bringing up of our kids and at what age should we introduce our toddlers to technology? These questions were addressed at an extremely interactive session organized by Intel called Toddlers and Technology.

What was heartening to hear from the technology leader Intel was its commitment towards pioneering technology. What was even more heartening was the inclusion of an educationist as part of the session to reaffirm the need of modern education to embrace some tenants of technology while continuing with the best practices of traditional teaching.

I too endorse this view of a balance between technology and traditional methods of bringing up our children. Turning the pages of a book or pounding on pegs cannot be substituted by a Kindle or an App on the Tab. In summation a healthy mix of old and new school is the way ahead for our toddlers to grow into informed and well educated individuals. The choice to arrive at that healthy balance between the two lies with us, the parents. There is no easy way!

Some tips shared by Intel@toddlers& technology session :

1.     Assign time for technology play

2.     Introduce your child to a variety of free educational apps to help your child polish their various skills

3.     Cognitive Stimulation: Reading, singing and doing various practical activities with you can be a really good exercise for your child

4.     Everything in Moderation: Making these activities limited

5.     Learn with your child: It only stands for your good if you get to know what your child learns

6.     Set rules and boundaries with the help of parental controls on the device that your child interacts with

7.     TEAM: Together Everyone Achieves More: The parent must always accompany their child while learning on an educational device

8.     Fine tune their Motor Skills: Make them type words, let them interact with the touch display, These help your child in sharp eye-hand co-ordination

9.     Teach cause and effect: Toddlers have an affection of manipulating stuff to make it look better or different. Introduce them to input and output activities based for toddlers

10.  Hide it: When Play time is over make sure it is a safe distance away from your little ones

Changing attitude of parents

Recently my son came back from school and said that his classmate had chicken pox and yet he attended school.

My wife and I were shocked!

As an immediate action point we called the teacher and asked her how she could allow the student to attend class as the entire class and school was at risk of an epidemic. She, thankfully, had already called the parents of the child and told them not to send the child to school till complete recovery was achieved.

Ideally, the teacher on recognizing the symptoms should have sent the child back home but the bigger question here is that what could have prompted the parents to be irresponsible and send their child to school knowing fully well that he has not recovered. Poor kid, attending school instead of resting and recovering. I wondered whether they had even bothered to consult their Doctor before taking this decision and putting other kids at risk.

I did discuss this with my son’s pediatrician who said people today think only of “their convenience” but to me it demonstrated complete callousness and irresponsibility on their part by risking all the other kids in class, bus, cafeteria and at school.

I don’t know whether both the parents are working or what their compulsion was in taking this reckless step.

Are parents today so caught up in the rigmarole of ones lives that they cannot pause and think once for the health of their offspring or the society around them? Is this casualness only going to increase in the coming years?